I have been a healer for most of my adult life, and have had various versions of the type of work that I did. Each modality of bodywork, each phase of my life, each target clientele had its own identity. I specialized in sports massage and traveled to regattas, road races, bicycle events and golf tournaments. My company brand was geared toward athletes. I worked in spas, chiropractor’s offices, gyms, and eventually opened my own home practice, each time changing my brand.
As I am winding down my massage career after over 25 years, my focus has shifted to more of a holistic approach to healing. I began to formulate questions about the body/mind/spirit connection: Can a person be healthy of body if the mind and spirit are unhealthy? Can the mind be clear if the body and spirit are muddy? Is the spirit free if the body and mind are weighed down?
The answer to those questions must be no. That began my expansion to helping people achieve balance of body, mind and spirit as a certified life coach. Through that self-exploration to help me help others came my own realization that I needed to find my own balance. I needed to go back to the time in my life when I felt the most joy, confidence and empowerment. The one thing that I always come back to, when I think of what brought me those things, was horses.
Horses have been in my life, on and off, from the time I was a little girl until now, as a beyond middle-aged woman. When I am around a horse I am at peace. I breathe in their remarkable beauty, strength and wisdom. I can’t help but be mindful in their company. Their size dictates that I pay attention. I have learned how to nurture another being. I learned how to be aware of my surroundings, and not move too fast or be too loud. I appreciate the peace and quiet of the horse’s environment. When I pay attention to the sights, sounds and smells in a barn, pasture or arena, I breathe deeper and my muscles relax; I feel connected with heaven and earth.
This crazy ride of life takes us to the highest of mountains and the lowest of valleys, and I have been through it all. I have made bad decisions, which led to more bad decisions and brought me to places of pain and regret. I also realize that I wouldn’t be me, had it not been for my past. As a beyond middle-aged woman I am happier with who I am today than any other time of my life. I love my work, my home, my friends, my hobbies and the happiness that comes from the balance that I have.
We have two choices when we feel like we have fallen off a horse. We either let fear win, and we give up, never allowing ourselves to enjoy the freedom riding a horse brings OR we dust ourselves off, get back in the saddle, and enjoy the ride. I have chosen to keep riding. I have chosen to learn from my mistakes, persist, be flexible, balanced and strong. I refuse to let fear of falling take away the joy that comes from being in the saddle.
Find your passion. Live in the moment. If you fall, get BACK IN THE SADDLE and enjoy the ride.